Gyn Explores Pegging

Hey guys, it was a joy to write this fresh article on pegging (if sometimes a little distracting). I was frightened by the notion of attempting to fuck my boyfriend in the ass but now it’s my favourite bedroom pastime, you know, other than watching Netflix box sets sleeping and binge. Because I’ve heard a lot of really strange myths about pegging, I believed I’d use this post as a manner to answer the many questions I’ve seen individuals ask. Enjoy!

WHAT IS PEGGING?

“Pegging is a sexual practice in which a female performs anal sex on a person by penetrating the man’s anus with a strap on dildo.”–Our dear friend Wikipedia

DOES IT MEAN HE’S SECRETLY GAY?

The brief and easy response (common sense) is, kindly,**

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No.

On the topic of’ branding,’ I feel very heavily that all anal acts as’ homosexual.’ A sexual act is not sexuality indicative. Sexuality is about who you choose to carry out those acts with, it’s about the kinds of individuals you are also drawn to. If you’re a straight guy and you’re having sex (in any form) with a woman, why would you care that what you’re doing actually means you’re homosexual or might make you gay somehow* cue eye roll *?

The stigma that makes individuals shy away from stuff perceived as’ gay’ makes me sad, particularly since I’m not myself heterosexual. I get there are some social pressures out there that make it difficult for men to participate in anal-related actions and I feel for the individuals who are struggling with it. Quite honestly, though, if you’re actually too homophobic to participate in anything the “homosexuals do” then okay, we’ll have fun here while you’re sitting in the corner stewing in your prejudices.

WHY PEG WHEN JUST HAVE SEX YOU COULD?

Uhm is his fun? Honestly as a woman (loosely speaking) I wondered for myself precisely what was in it. It ticked a lot of my boxes mentally, Taboo check, revolves around his bum check, puts me in charge of checking, turns both of us on check. But what was supposed to do for me PHYSICALLY? Would I have any enjoyment when he was the only one to be penetrated in theory and no one paid my clit attention? Well, I don’t need to worry. In all my masturbation attempts put together, no-word-of – a-lie, I felt more enjoyment pegging my boyfriend.

Pegging is a excellent way to mix stuff up in the bedroom; it’s an interesting and often overwhelming role reversal, the overall mind saying of “OMG I’m fucking him like I’ve got a dick.”

And just a little reminder, you will NOT become less of a’ person’ by letting yourself to be stuck. I’m interested in all genders, but what I love about males and my partner in particular is his courage, his trust and his open-mindedness, when that transfers to what we do in the bedroom –when he lets me take the reins, trust me, he’s willing to explore–I love him for it, and he’s turned on 100%.

WILL BE MAINSTREAM PEGGING EVER?

I believe pegging is already becoming more common, even featured in the latest Deadpool film (although briefly). WOOOO, RYAN REYNOLDS we love you! But before it’s a commonly accepted practice, we have a long way to go. I’d likely have feinted it two years ago so there’s still hope for the remainder of the globe!

I would love the surrounding stigma to just hang up and vanish, I hate that C feels what we’re doing in the bedroom needs to remain a secret, but I also know his worries. For the time being, we’re not talking to our colleagues about what we’re up against between the sheets when it comes to strap-on and being frank about knowing that what we’re doing is taboo simply adding a sizzling layer of nervous excitement to our fun.

HELP, HOW TO PEG ME MY GF?

Just ask her.

Okay I get it’s not always that easy, are you already practicing other anal types? If not, it’s a nice starting point.

Have discussions, be open, discuss exploring, promote pressure-free. Make things fun and light-hearted, join sex forums like Lovehoney’s one–it was there that I sparked an interest in pegging first. Ask her if she wants to try stuff and be open to attempting them. Get to a point where exploring is a component of your relationship that is’ normal.’

Once you’ve found out if there’s an interest in anal (or if you’re already exploring that) then things are progressing, demonstrate her how much you’re enjoying anal, use dildos, speak about how warm it’s when she’s using them on you, it’s not a enormous leap to make from there.

WHERE DO WE START?

TALK. And when that’s done, speak a little bit more.

Don’t run before you can walk, you certainly need to have some amount of anal experience before you start pegging. The backdoor played but never had a dildo inside of you? Get one, try it alone, it’s very distinct from anal beads or a plug with a ass. Usually even large plugs have very tapered necks that enable your sphincter to close a bit, a dildo doesn’t allow that, it keeps you open, and if you’re not ready for it, it can be a stretch-too-far away.

Play on your own and together with the dildos you’re planning to use for pegging. Then, when the time comes, get a harness, strap in, and remember that the first time you don’t have to blaze in all the guns. Go easy, go slow, speak a little bit more.

WHAT DILDO?

My private suggestion is to go for something a little lower than what you’re used to using anally, otherwise it can get too overwhelming rapidly. Many’ pegging’ dildos are slim, with little to no texture, relatively strong. That may be okay to begin with, but don’t feel restricted to’ pegging dildos,’ any flared base toy you like will be fine in a harness.

Your friend is flexibility. The Helio is the favorite dildo to be pegged with, its super squishy dual density makes it much more convenient for him to experience. Traditional’ pegging dildos are often small and very inflexible, but when it comes to fucking Narrow + Inflexible= poking (not always the most pleasant feeling) this makes it simpler to insert.

You could also consider a double-ended dildo, one that the giver’ carries’ and enables them to peg you with something that feels like a self-extension.  The Fun Factory Share is my favorite dildo to peg C with. Its inner bulb connected to the shaft enables me to feel a lot more amazing every thrust.

WILL IT BE MESSY?

Maybe. I don’t understand what you’ve had today for lunch or how long you’ve been pooping, but sometimes anal mess occurs. You can try to douch for half an hour in advance to clean up yourself, but as a regular thing I don’t advise to douch. Be ready for this result mostly. Before we played, we used to throw a towel down but now we own the liberator throe so it’s our failsafe to prevent the bed sheets from being poop-splattered. If it happens, please be an adult about stuff, after all you’re playing with an region intended to remove poop from your body, so be amazed when that poop makes an appearance is a bit naive.

WILL IT BE DIFFICULT?

I think it’s like having sex for the first time at first, how much is it too much? Which positions do the best work? And wow is really pushing a lot of effort? At least when I first fucked C in the ass, these were my ideas. I discovered lining myself in a lot of positions with his hole, as I’m much shorter than him. Spooning is functioning well. Generally though, it’s the simplest thing for me if I can get him high enough doggy style.

DO YOU HAVE TO BE DOMINANT TO PEG ALL?

Only if you wish. I’m dominant in the bedroom and sometimes I use pegging to dominate C, but it doesn’t have to be that way, we both approached it with the wide-eyed innocence you’d expect from virgins. Pegging doesn’t have to be’ kinky’ in any other sense than it’s a bit taboo, you can have the kind of sleepy-spoon-sex you have when you wake up first or that enthusiastic need-to-be-closer, eager-to-cum sex that comes to me naturally after a few beverages. If you want, you can even wear a strap-on as a submissive, with your dominate teaching you how to fuck him best. There’s endless opportunities.

IS IT OKAY TO NOT WANT TO PEG/BE PEGGED?

Yes, of course, if your cup of tea is simply not a sexual act / practice / position, put that cup down, pour down the drain on the metaphorical Earl Grey! Don’t sit down and sip away at something you didn’t just want to try something fresh.

OMG WHY DO WE DO THIS ALL ALLONG?

I don’t understand, I’m constantly asking myself the same question.